Relationships after reality television require work too. Bachelorette Rachel Lindsay and fiancé Bryan Abasolo caught up with one of her season 13 exes, Dean Unglert, on his podcast, Help! I Suck at Dating with Dean Unglert, on Monday, October 9.
Podcast host Unglert, who made it to hometown dates on Lindsay’s season and subsequently appeared on Bachelor in Paradise, admitted that he was “very nervous” about talking to the couple for several reasons. “I reached out to them because they’ve been through a lot. They both know me. We’ve gotten to know each other… I think that they have a great relationship, and [I want to talk to them about] what makes them work so well, and what didn’t make us work so well,” he said. “I’m trying to calm down and I’m trying to work on my breathing exercises from my meditation.”
Adding to the tension—which Unglert dissipated immediately on Monday by apologizing to Lindsay and Abasolo about his comments regarding her final pick—was the fact that he’s grown close to her season 13 runner-up Kraus. “It’s going to be a little bit awkward because of my friendship with Peter… which took a little bit away from my friendship with Bryan,” Unglert admitted.
As recalled, Lindsay sent Kraus packing after he stated out-right that it didn’t feel right to propose. Fans were torn about Lindsay’s final decision, saying she chose Abasolo by default, though she’s maintained that he was her first choice all along. (The Miami-based chiropractor was the recipient of her first impression rose.)
The fallout from the somewhat-controversial experience was tricky to navigate initially, according to Lindsay. “It was difficult in the beginning,” she said. “Believe it or not, [I’m] actually very private normally with my relationships… To be attacked on social media and just sometimes in the media, it was really hard individually and just together as a couple.”
According to Lindsay, the two had to keep open levels of communication throughout. “For us, it was like, if we can get through this—which was a lot in the beginning—we can get through anything,” she said.
Abasolo, from his end, chimed in on how they worked through the situation. “Just us knowing each other so well and knowing exactly what we want… Not everybody is gonna like you 100 percent of the time,” he said. “If we see something out there that’s negative or bashing us in any way, we’ll talk about it. I just think it takes two people that have that level of respect for each other to not let those types of things affect you.”
As a result, the two are now even stronger in bond than before. “Everything’s great, man. We’re just living in Dallas… potentially moving to California in the near future and excited about what’s to come,” Abasolo told Unglert. The doctor added hat he was “fully committed” to the relationship and even rented out his condo in Miami before moving to Texas.
Both have told The Knot previously that they are planning a winter wedding in 2018 to 2019.