He would like a wife in his life! Josh Murray is ready to pursue love, and he reveals to The Knot in an exclusive new interview what qualities he’s looking for in a future wife.
The Bachelorette season 10 winner, 31, is currently starring on E!’s docu-series, Famously Single, which premiered Tuesday, June 14. The show follows eight high-profile singles who’ve publicly struggled with romance, but crave intimacy. The stars (Murray, Danity Kane singer Aubrey O’Day, Jersey Shore alum DJ Pauly D, London playboy Calum Best, model Jessica White, former NFL player Willis McGahee, Love and Hip-Hop’s Somaya Reece and Real Housewives of Beverly Hills star Brandi Glanville) work with licensed therapist Dr. Darcy Sterling for a month to pinpoint their problems.
“I know the show is called Famously Single — and it’s incredible — but I don’t know, the famous thing is weird to me,” Murray tells The Knot. “It’s more like I’m a normal person and I’m single and I’m learning and yes, maybe I have a larger platform than somebody else, but people are people to me … Hopefully, I’ve learned a lot from past relationships that I wouldn’t have spotted before.”
Murray received the final rose during the Season 10 finale of The Bachelorette, which aired in July 2014, but he and Andi Dorfman broke off their engagement in early 2015. “Before, when I was in relationships, I didn’t dive deep into really personal questions,” Murray tells The Knot. “But what I need to do is see how they act around others [and] see how they are outside of areas that aren’t awesome crazy trips or extravagant things.”
He gives examples. “I need to see how they act around their family, how they act around others, how they act in stressful situations. How are they when someone comes up to you and asks for like a picture? Are they going to be jealous? Or, [do they think it’s] nice that you are taking the time to make somebody happy? That could make their day or their week or their life, who knows what impact you can have. But just somebody who’s nice and goes along with that and just appreciates what you want to do. Somebody who’s supportive, you kind of see that as a relationship evolves. It’s just very important, I think everybody should have that. I don’t really have a list i just feel like it’s there you know? You kind of you see it.”
Murray, however, has standards and looks for distinct qualities in a future wife. “Like a best friend to be honest with you,” he tells The Knot. “There are peaks and valleys in every relationship but somebody who’s going to be there for you no matter what. That you just love and have that unconditional love with no matter what.” I feel like, I love an independent women but just because you’re an independent woman doesn’t mean that you need to be like nasty and mean. An independent woman can be classy and nice to others and be sweet and caring and loving, and just the basic stuff I think a woman or a man should be. A family oriented woman is a very very big deal to me as well. Just a kind person, someone who’s nice to people. Very easy, I think.”
The former football player told us at the same event that he wanted to go on Season 12 of The Bachelorette to pursue JoJo Fletcher, but he was told he couldn’t. “To be honest with you, TV is great — and it gives you a great platform to do stuff — but the only reason I went on The Bachelorette is to find somebody. The only reason I came here [to Famously Single] is to learn something … It’s all about finding somebody. If I could find someone tonight and not have to do another show ever again, I’d be the happiest man in the world.”
Viewers can watch him work out his issues on Famously Single. “I think I have definitely grown in the last couple of years,” Murray says. “And I’ve grown even from going on the show and I learned a lot, not just from the docs on there, but from my cast mates. You get to see people in all kinds of different backgrounds and I love people in general. I don’t care who you are you learn a story from each and every one of them, and I love every single one of them, so I’ve learned a lot.”
He’s also in a solid place now that his beloved bulldog, Sabel, is recovering from cancer. “I’m open to any possibilities now that my dog is finally healthy,” he says. “Oh my God, she finished her last round of chemo on Wednesday after five months of stress and she’s so much better. So now it’s time to find a mommy and it’s time to go out there. I can actually do some stuff now so I feel good about leaving her and start doing some stuff for a little bit. So, we’ll see what comes up, who knows? I’m more willing to take [more] opportunities now than I was before.”
Watch Murray and the cast of Famously Single on E! on Tuesdays at 10 p.m. ET.