Blake Lively Explains How She Resolves Issues With Husband Ryan Reynolds: “I Treat Him like My Girlfriend”

Blake Lively Ryan ReynoldsBlake Lively revealed how she resolves conflict and any frustrating issues with her husband of five years, Ryan Reynolds—find out here. (Photo by James Devaney/GC Images,)

Tell us everything. As Blake Lively promotes her new movie, The Husband’s Secret, the actress is sharing some secrets of her own when it comes to her high-profile marriage to Ryan Reynolds–beginning with how they resolve conflict.

“In other relationships, if something came up, I would call my girlfriends or my sister, and say, ‘Hey, this is what he did—what should I do?’” Lively told Glamour in its September issue. “Where with him, we were friends for two years before we were ever dating. And I treat him like my girlfriend. I’m like, ‘Hey, this happened. It upset me. This is how I feel. What do I do?'” And he does the same for me. He treats me like his best buddy.”

The couple, who met on the set of Green Lantern, quietly married in September 2012. Though both maintain steady movie releases and careers in Hollywood, the stars opt to compromise when it comes to their respective projects.

“We don’t work at the same time,” Lively added. “I admire people who find that what fulfills them is their art or their work, but what fulfills both me and my husband is our family. Knowing that, everything else comes second. We’ve each given up stuff we loved in order to not work at the same time. I’m fortunate to be in a place now where I get to find the material—a book or script—early and develop it. I know ahead of time that I’m going to be working on this job at this time. And we can plan around it.”

Acting, though, is primarily a passion of the couple’s. “My husband and I are really shy people who express ourselves best when we’re acting, when we’re hiding as someone else,” she said. “So the fact that very shy people have to share that shy person with the world—and are sometimes hurt by it—it’s very weird emotionally. Anyway, champagne problems.”

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Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds with their daughters James and Ines.

Though shy, the stars share many laughs together, especially when Reynolds tweets completely bogus, fabricated life moments on social media. “He may as well work for the Enquirer. When he says ‘my daughter,’ he’s never, ever talking about her. Everything is a completely made-up scenario,” Lively joked. “He’ll run them by me sometimes just to make me laugh. But oh, I’m so in love with him when he writes that stuff. I mean, I’m in love with him most of the time, but especially with that.”

Lively and Reynolds are parents to two young girls, James and Ines, and the actress says she’s so thankful to raise them with the Deadpool actor. “With my husband, I’m lucky to have someone who is so conscious. My husband was like, ‘Why do I always say he?’ And I said, ‘That’s what we’re taught,’” Lively shared. “So, he’ll pick up a caterpillar, and instead of saying, ‘What’s his name?’ he’ll say, ‘What’s her name?’ Or we’ve joked that my daughter is bossy. But my husband said, ‘I don’t ever want to use that word again. You’ve never heard a man called bossy.’ “There would never be any negative connotation for a man being a boss, so to add a negative connotation on a woman being bossy? It’s belittling. And it doesn’t encourage them to be a boss. So, do I know how to be the best parent for a daughter? No, I have no idea. All I can do is share what I’m thinking—and learn from others.”

The family of four made their first public appearance together in December 2016, at Reynolds’ Walk of Fame ceremony. During the moment, the actor gave a sweet shout-out to Lively for her support. “I want to thank my wife, Blake, who is sitting right there who is everything to me,” he said at the time. “You are the best thing that has ever happened to me. You make everything better. You make everything in my life better. You’ve given me two of the most incredible children I’ve ever hoped to have.”

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Esther Lee
Esther Lee
Esther is the Senior News Editor at The Knot. A self-proclaimed pop culture enthusiast, she appreciates a good celebrity interview just as much as she adores Nancy Meyers movies. You can find her kicking off her mornings with barre and a green juice, traveling and exploring new cultures, and rapidly scrolling her feed for the latest and greatest news. Follow her on Instagram and Twitter at @theestherlee.