Leave it to the Internet to do the necessary work of keeping to-be-weds in check, especially when they step out of line. Such was the case for one bride, whose clueless, recent post to Reddit quickly caught the attention of users on the platform.
The bride posed her scenario to the thread “Am I the A–hole” in February, asking whether or not it was terrible that she had left one of her best friends out of her wedding party—on account of her body.
“I am currently in the midst of planning my wedding, which my fiancé and I just set a date for this coming summer,” the post reads. “I’ve spent most of the last few weeks getting together with friends to do the whole ‘will you be my bridesmaid?’ thing.” The bride explained that her side of the bridal party consisted of a mix of friends from work, college, and childhood, with two of her best childhood friends seemingly shoe-ins for the coveted spots.
However, though she asked one friend, Kristy, she opted ultimately not to ask the other friend, Erin, whom she’s not as close to anymore. Their faded friendship isn’t the reason why she opted not to ask Erin to be her bridesmaid, however; rather it was because “Erin has MASSIVE breasts,” the bride wrote.
She then explained that Erin dealt with a hormonal disorder. “Even the doctor have suggested that she get a breast reduction surgery… Erin has refused out of fear of going under the knife,” she wrote. As a result, the bride opined how Erin’s body posed a major problem when figuring out bridesmaid dresses, and therefore she concluded that the best option would be just not to ask Erin at all.
“I originally planned on asking Erin to be a bridesmaid, but then I started thinking about the logistics of getting a bridesmaid dress tailored to fit her dimensions and how she won’t be capable of wearing a strapless dress because she can’t do strapless bras.” Erin also has to use special shoulder pads for her bra straps “that she’s insecure about,” which would necessitate a dress with sleeves.
“It stressed me out immensely, and I felt that it would be borderline impossible to find a solution that wouldn’t somehow embarrass and/or ostracize Erin,” she continued.
Perhaps the bride’s most damning statement, however, was when she later wrote, “When people think back on my wedding, I want them to think about how beautiful the venue was, or how nice the wedding party looked, or (dare I say) my fiance and I finally getting hitched! I don’t want people to remember my wedding for the bridesmaid with the giant boobs.”
Reddit users instantly pushed back against the bride, calling her self-centered and rude.
“I had 4 bridesmaids and 1 bridesman,” one user wrote. “One of my bridesmaids (my MOH) is lesbian and whilst I always teased about forcing her into a dress, I never considered it. So I had 3 girls in dresses and my MOH and bridesman in pants and a button up shirt. My wedding was exceedingly fabulous and is still talked about to this day. No one mentions their outfits though.”