File this under “How not to treat your wedding guests.” One woman’s wedding story is going viral this week for all the wrong reasons. In a post that has already made its rounds on Facebook, Twitter, Reddit, and likely other platforms, a woman who has only been identified by the name “Susan” unleashed a long rant to her friends and family after she decided to cancel her upcoming wedding—and blamed them for the wedding nightmare.
“It comes with great sadness that I am announcing the cancellation of the [redacted] wedding,” the lengthy post begins. “I apologize for cancelling only 4 days beforehand.”
Susan then goes on to explain that she and her would-be groom had split up over “recent and irreparable problems,” though they would continue to co-parent and be civil for the sake of their son. “In one hour after posting this status, I am going to delete my Facebook,” she continues. “Social media has caused me only paranoia and toxicity.” As for what she’s planning to do now that the wedding is awash, Susan explains that she will be “spending the next two months backpacking in South America, exploring [her] soul and ridding [herself] of toxic energy brought on by [her] friends and family.”
At this point in her rant, Susan explains that things weren’t always so volatile. She writes that she and her ex actually grew up together and had known each other since they were 14. “Things were a fairy tale,” she writes. He proposed at 18, with a ring worth nearly $5,000, and the pair were happily in love when they found out that she was pregnant, at 20, with their first child together.
“After giving birth to [redacted], I knew the next step would be to focus on my career and becoming financially stable,” she writes. “My Ex did the same. We saved and saved. I was in love, I was happy, I was looking forward to life.”
When it came time to plan for the wedding, then, they had collectively saved up $15,000. But after a visit to a psychic, they were told to go for the pricier of two venues they had been looking at, and suddenly $15,000 just wasn’t quite enough for the wedding of their dreams.
The couple decided to enlist the help of their family and friends, asking for a head-scratching $1,500 per guest in order to make their $60,000 dream wedding happen. The planning took a turn for the worse, however, when it began to seem like the ask was being ignored by their loved ones.
“I specifically, I mean specifically, asked for cash gifts,” she writes. “How could we have our wedding that we dreamed of without proper funding? We’d sacrificed so much and only asked each guest for around $1,500. We talked to a few people who even promised us more to make our dream come true.”
Susan then points out that her maid of honor (“who shall not be named”) offered to donate $5,000 and her ex’s family offered to contribute $3,000. Later on, however, when Susan began to get frustrated that only eight guests had RSVP’d and sent along the $1,500, her gratitude toward both her maid of honor and her ex’s family turned sour.
“Desperately, we resent our invites and asked people to donate what they could. I mean, seriously, people, what is $1,000?” she writes. “What is $1,500? Clearly, not a lot. It would be quite manageable and within budget. I’ve heard of people asking for worse.”
A GoFundMe page they set up only accrued $250, and the “livid” bride was inconsolable, realizing that her “dream wedding was becoming a nightmare.” Her ex, trying to make matters better, offered for the two of them to have a Vegas wedding instead, but Susan says she “laughed in his face” at the idea, criticizing his offer as linking her to some rather unpleasant activities. From there on out, the situation spiraled, with her ex walking out on her, her maid of honor telling her she was asking for too much, and the rest of the guests asking for their money back.
“How could someone who offered me thousands of dollars then deny me my promised money and then tell me to shift down my budget?” she writes of her maid of honor. “She knows my f–king dream was a blowout wedding. I just wanted to be a Kardashian for a day and then live my life like normal.”
Now, it appears as though Susan is no longer online, but denizens of the Internet are still abuzz about her outburst.
To be fair, how much to spend on a wedding has always been a point of contention for many brides and grooms and their family and friends. According to The Knot 2018 Wedding Guest Study, on average, members of the wedding party spend about $295 total on wedding gifts for the bachelor and bachelorette parties, wedding shower and the wedding day itself, while other guests actually spend a similar $289.
Fifteen-hundred, though, still feels a tad over-the-top!
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