In a two-page document titled “Things to Keep in Mind Before You Say Yes,” the pair outlined some things they want their potential guests to consider before marking a confident “yes” on their save-the-dates.
“The wedding will be held over in an Asian country (Philippines, Thailand, Vietnam, etc.). One of the above we haven’t decided yet,” the message reads, adding that flights there range from 10 to 13 hours, and can cost anywhere between $500 to $1,000, depending on when the tickets are booked.
So far, so reasonable.
What’s causing a debate amongst social media users, however, are the suggestions the couple seemed to make of their friends and loved ones who might want to attend the festivities.
“You will need at least two weeks off,” the document goes on to read. “One week is too short for how long the flights are. Only 2-3 days for the wedding festivities, but the rest of the time is yours to do and go on whatever adventures you like.”
The full cost of the two-week travel extravaganza, according to the couple, would likely range between $4,000 and $5,000.
“You will need approximately $4000 to $5,000, or more if you desire,” the save the date continues, “that includes hotels, food, drinks, daily adventures, [and] scooter rentals.” Importantly, the couple notes that guests will likely not use this full amount, but that it is safer to budget more just in case.
To cap off the note, the couple explained that they’re requesting guests to RSVP by the end of February, “if not sooner,” and will then select a country and venue based on the number of people they have in attendance. “We hope to give you at least 9 months in advance, so if you want to attend, start saving your pennies now!” the save-the-date reads.
People are decidedly split over the tone and message of the couple’s note, and shared their thoughts accordingly. “Bridezilla is tame for this one. She’s more like living in a dream world,” one user wrote. “Is she marrying herself what does the partner expect. They’ll be there on their own.”
Other users found the note “mindful,” but not necessarily delivered in the best way. “It is a good idea in theory but they didn’t execute it very well,” one commenter wrote.
Other recent, viral demands from couples include asking all the guests to dress in Louboutins, submitting bids to be part of the bridal party, and asking guests with kids to leave the reception of an adults-only wedding.
For more on the topic, check out the save-the-date mistakes to avoid while wedding planning.