Gwyneth Paltrow’s current wedding planning experience will only slightly differ from her first trek down the aisle. The Oscar-winning actress, who recently announced her engagement to producer Brad Falchuk, shared a tiny update about her wedding day vision this weekend, though she admitted to being too “busy” to kick off the planning process just yet.
“I think I’m [too] old to have a big wedding,” Paltrow, 45, mused to Entertainment Tonight at the Goop Summit in New York City. “And [to have] a big ole white dress and all that… I gotta dial it back.”
Paltrow and her ex-husband, Coldplay rocker Chris Martin, eloped in December 2003, at the celeb-beloved San Ysidro Ranch in Montecito, California. Even then, the actress chose to “dial it back” by secretly marrying the musician without her family members present for the ceremony.
The details from the nuptials have also remained hush-hush even after the couple announced in March 2014, that they were choosing to separate by coining the phrase, “conscious uncoupling,” in a Goop newsletter blast.
Paltrow also used her lifestyle platform to announce her engagement to Falchuk this year. “Personally, at midlife, I have tried to accept how complex romantic love can be,” she explained inside the issue. “I have decided to give it a go again, not only because I believe I have found the man I was meant to be with, but because I have accepted the soul-stretching, pattern-breaking opportunities that (terrifyingly) are made possible by intimacy.”
She reiterated the point to ET over the weekend while chatting about Falchuk. “It’s a life-long project,” Paltrow noted of marriage. “I think that there are certain people who have a really hard time with intimacy. I always say, I’m a good sister. I’m a good daughter. I’m a good girlfriend. I’m a good mother. That romantic slice of the pie chart of my life has always been where I find my deepest work… I just am trying to towards intimacy instead of being scared of it and I’m really lucky that I found a partner that’s patient and loves me and is willing to help me with my process.”