On the reality series and so-called “social experiment” six singles, including strangers Jamie Otis and Doug Hehner, were matched with their mates and as the name of the show suggests, Married at First Sight. The couples endured weeks of sorting out their lives, careers, families and emotions and at the end of the series were given the option to stay married, or get a divorce.
Jamie and Doug decided to stay marry, but in the second season of FYI’s spinoff series, Married at First Sight: The First Year, the couple is raising questions about whether they’ll stay together or not. Since their wedding in March 2014, Jamie and Doug’s fighting has gotten worse and Jamie revealed to fans that she is “ashamed” of her behavior.
In the Nov. 10 episode of Married at First Sight: The First Year titled, “This is Serious,” Jamie and Doug were coming out of a very difficult discussion and trying to build up their relationship once more. Jamie revealed that she was still having feelings for her ex-boyfriend and Doug shared that he no longer has “the same confidence that we’re meant for each other.”
Later in the episode, the two fought in the car on the way to Jamie’s sister’s second baby shower when Jamie asked when Doug would be ready for children. When he said he wanted to feel better about the status of their relationship currently before moving forward with those decisions, Jamie got defensive.
Jamie pressed Doug to tell her how long he would need until they could start planning to buy a house or have a baby and Doug explained that he wanted to fix their current issues – having just learned of Jamie’s feelings for her ex – and that he’d be willing to go to marriage counseling to work it out. Problem solved?
Jamie revealed on Twitter recently that she was “ashamed” of her behavior on the show. In a reply to one follower who called her “a narcissistic and emasculating woman,” Jamie agreed with the comment adding, “I can admit when I’m wrong.”
— Jamie N. Otis (@jamienotis) November 18, 2015
Previously Jamie took to Twitter to thank her sister for showing her how selfish she is writing, “Selfish people are too busy being selfish to realize the needs of others. Thank God for my sis to knock sense into me – Thanking God for a lot.”
Selfish people are too busy being selfish to realize the needs of others. Thank God for my sis to knock sense into me-Thanking God for a lot — Jamie N. Otis (@jamienotis) November 11, 2015
At the start of the Nov. 17 episode, “Hijinks,” Doug reiterates how Jamie’s feelings for her ex and her doubts about the relationship have really placed doubts in his mind, and that he still doesn’t feel like his opinions are being heard. “It’s been tough to let it go and get back on the right path,” Doug said. But has he really been voicing his opinions?
As Doug feels more insecure about the relationship, he pushes Jamie away, falling into a late-night schedule of working, the gym, and ‘relaxing’ by distancing himself from her. Struggling with his absence, and after cutting back on communication with her ex, Jamie pushes harder to curb her loneliness. She gets advice from the show’s resident sociologist, Dr. Pepper Schwartz to make her feelings known without blaming Doug for their situation. Dr. Pepper explains that her ex is most certainly a catalyst for Doug’s recent behavior, and though Jamie agrees to do everything Dr Pepper suggests, it’s easier said than done.
Instead of bringing up new ideas to meet more people and be more sociable together, Jamie continues to reiterate that buying a house closer to her friends, or having a baby (which would convince her friends to make the drive to see her and the child) would be ideal.
When Doug doesn’t really see these as present-day solutions, he then talks to Dr. Pepper alone about creating more community-based, volunteering opportunities for himself and Jamie to do together so as to make more friends and spend more time having fun.
By the end of the episode it seems like the pair are finally on the same page having both had individual chats with the sociologist and time to reflect on their own and their partner’s behaviors and emotions. The two volunteer at a local adoption center and shelter Sammy’s Hope making treats, cleaning kennels and playing with puppies.
Jamie is ecstatic to be playing with puppies and says that volunteering will be a great way to meet friends, but is this enough to curb the ex-boyfriend drama and keep this couple together forever?
Married at First Sight: The First Year can be seen on FYI (formally The Biography Channel) on Tuesdays at 9/8c.