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Kristin Cavallari Gets Candid About the “Ups and Downs” in Her Marriage to Jay Cutler

Kristin Cavallari Jay CutlerKristin Cavallari and Jay Cutler. (Photo by Jason LaVeris/Getty Images)

Kristin Cavallari keeps it real in a clip for an upcoming episode of Very Cavallari, explaining to friends that her marriage is far from perfect despite perception.

During a group sleepover, the former Hills star is surprised when her friends laud her for her “perfect” marriage.

“He wants to really, really take care of you,” Cavallari’s close friend Justin Anderson says in the clip. “Like, he’s at home right now taking care of your kids, answering your call the minute you call. People don’t find that!”

Cavallari agrees that she really lucked out by marrying Jay Cutler back in 2013, but warned that it takes a lot of hard work to make their marriage work, and that it’s not always sunshine and rainbows.

“Jay has been great, yes,” she says. “From the outside, things are so perfect and things are so great, but actually, like, they’re not and that sucks. That’s the thing though with marriage, it’s ups and downs.” Cavallari adds that the couple are currently going through a “low,” though she has faith that they’ll work their issues out together, just like they always have.

“That’s how we’ve always been our whole relationship,” she says. “It just is what it is.”

Later, during a confessional, the Uncommon James founder further explains their situation. “Jay and I have problems, I’ve always been very vocal about that. We have to work at our relationship,” she says. “So, hearing [Justin] say that we’re perfect—it’s kind of silly to me. We definitely have issues.”

Last summer, Cavallari told Us Weekly that she and Cutler are able to keep their romance alive not in spite of, but because of, their busy schedules. “Jay and I have always had in our favor that we both travel,” she said. “So we’re able to miss each other, which truly, I think is the secret. It’s the secret for us.”

The couple has also been rather open about the importance of marriage counseling and its benefits to their relationship.

“Jay and I have to make a conscious effort. You have to put in work for a relationship,” Cavallari previously told Us of her marriage to the NFL star. “You can’t just get complacent and lazy. You have to still value and appreciate the other person. I think that when you don’t, that’s probably when you start to get in trouble.”

According to Lasting, having ups and downs in marriage is totally normal. That’s why you should read this piece about five important questions to ask if you currently feel unhappy in your marriage.