Four years ago, actress Lake Bell married fine artist Scott Campbell in New Orleans before a star-studded group of guests including Jennifer Aniston and Justin Theroux, Eva Longoria and Cameron Diaz. In retrospect, what Bell remembers and values most from the ceremony was the significance of the 190 guests who partied into the night with the couple on that sweltering hot day in May 2013.
“I remember when Scott and I set out to make a wedding,” she told Vulture in a new interview. “I think it was really important to both of us that, if we’re going to do it, it’s got to be a little messy—it can’t be like, pristine and perfect. It’s got to be a little gamey, a little sweaty, a little messy. It was like a hundred degrees.”
Naturally there were some snafus. “There was dancing—my sister cut her foot on a dance floor, there was blood. It’s got to be a little primal,” she joked. “And it’s got to be a party. It’s got to be the dopest party, the greatest reason to throw a huge party.”
Bell, who’s starring in a new movie called I Do… Until I Don’t, went on to share how she finds meaning in weddings. “It’s an excuse to get your friends together and then stand in front of them and say, ‘We’re going all in,’” she continued. “And bringing them into it, it’s like, ‘It’s all your responsibility to support the s**t out of us.’ I always like that in weddings, where it’s not just like, [singing] ‘Look at me looking so beautiful.’ It’s about, we’re all in this together. Because marriage, kids, all this stuff, it’s largely about community.”
According to the star, that meaning sometimes get muddled. “I did a lot of research and reading about marriage and whatnot, and there was one concept of ‘performance weddings,’ which is something that I loathe, even though I had a big old wedding,” she said. “…Because performance weddings are like, ‘Look at me in this moment!’ That’s not a sustainable existence. The wooing and the ‘I look my thinnest and I look my best and my youngest’—that’s not marriage!”
The Secret Life of Pets star shares two kids, daughter Nova and son Ozzi, with her husband. The couple first met in 2011 on the set of HBO’s How To Make It In America.