It took a fire for Miley Cyrus and Liam Hemsworth to redefine their previously steady relationship. The couple, whose Malibu home burned down last fall, unexpectedly married in an impromptu, holiday wedding on December 23.
In a new interview with Vanity Fair, the singer-songwriter explained why she and Hemsworth finally decided to make it official, and why she chose specific elements of her wedding, which was witnessed only by an intimate group of direct family members and super close friends.
“When you experience what we experienced together with someone, it is like glue,” Cyrus said of the traumatic loss of their home. “You’re the only two people in the world who can understand.”
“The reason that people get married sometimes can be old-fashioned, but I think the reason we got married isn’t old-fashioned—I actually think it’s kind of New Age,” she continued. “We’re redefining, to be f—king frank, what it looks like for someone that’s a queer person like myself to be in a hetero relationship. A big part of my pride and my identity is being a queer person. What I preach is: People fall in love with people, not gender, not looks, not whatever. What I’m in love with exists on almost a spiritual level. It has nothing to do with sexuality. Relationships and partnerships in a new generation—I don’t think they have so much to do with sexuality or gender. Sex is actually a small part, and gender is a very small, almost irrelevant part of relationships.”
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In a separate personal memo published Thursday, February 21, Cyrus went into detail about her relationship, the wedding ceremony, and more.
“I wore a dress on my wedding day because I felt like it,” she wrote. “I straightened my hair because I felt like it, but that doesn’t make me become some instantly ‘polite hetero lady.’ (PS: Straight women are badass, too.) My relationship is very special to me, it is my home. I feel less misplaced when we are in the same room, no matter where that is, but just because something changes in my relationship doesn’t mean something has to drastically change in my individuality.”
She also bared that the experience of the fire prompted the couple to reevaluate their relationship. “What Liam and I went through together changed us. I’m not sure without losing Malibu, we would’ve been ready to take this step or ever even gotten married, who can say?” she continued. “But the timing felt right and I go with my heart. No one is promised the next day, or the next, so I try to be ‘in the now’ as much as possible.”
While Cyrus explained she felt “zero percent different” in marriage with Hemsworth, she mused: “I would say that losing the house changed us much more than getting married changed us.”
Overall, she noted her partnership with Hemsworth has allowed both parties to thrive. “Without feeling like you’re putting a Band-Aid on a bad situation and saying, ‘Oh well, you know, now everything will be better.’ Because a lot of people use marriage I think maybe for a cure,” she noted. “But like my favorite woman in the world, Hillary Clinton, says: We’re stronger together. That’ll make me get emotional. That’s what she meant by it. Like, who gives a f—k if he’s a guy, if I’m a girl, or if he was a woman—who gives a f—k? We really are stronger together. One is the loneliest number.”
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