Will Smith on His 20th Wedding Anniversary With Jada Pinkett Smith—And Their Unconventional Holiday Tradition

Will Jada Pinkett Smith“What we did probably about eight years ago is we stopped giving gifts on holidays,” says the actor, who will soon celebrate his 20th wedding anniversary to Jada Pinkett Smith. (

When it comes to relationship longevity in Hollywood, celebrity spouses Will Smith and Jada Pinkett Smith are among those high-profile pairs who’ve withstood the test of time. On December 31, the dynamic duo will celebrate their 20th wedding anniversary, and they can hardly believe it themselves.

“Two decades,” Smith mused to E! News this week. “When you’re married with somebody that long and we were talking about it. We were like, ‘You know. It’s 20 years. What are we gonna do?’ She was like, ‘We’re gonna high-five and keep it moving.’”

The two share two kids, Jaden, 19, and Willow, 17, as well as the Bright actor’s son from his first marriage, Trey. After being together for so long, Smith now says there’s a sense of friendship and comfort that takes priority in the marriage.

The Smith family.

The Smith family.

“When you see couples that have been together long… and you have that look between them, you just know. If you haven’t been with somebody that long, you just can’t really say the thing where you get to that place,” he mused. “[It’s] where you find the magic in the mundane, where you’re not seeking the high stimulus and all of that ravaging, craving. It’s just really simple and really easy, you know? It’s certainly not what I pictured in my mind…what it’s supposed to be. It’s like, unconditional love is a whole lot harder and different than it looks in the movies.”

For the actor, that love aspires to be both unconditional and unconventional. “What we did probably about eight years ago is we stopped giving gifts on holidays,” he shared. “Because people expect them.”

Instead, the pair will come up with other gestures of appreciation throughout the year. “So we surprise each other in the middle of the year. We’ll just say, it’s October 11 and she’ll just come home and I’ll say, ‘Hey baby, it’s Valentine’s Day,’” he revealed. “And then the surprise of it is what gives the energy back, whereas if you’re waiting for a gift on Christmas to top what you did last year, you really can’t do it.”

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Esther Lee
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