Nico Tortorella wants to share his wedding with everyone. The Younger actor, who plays Josh on the popular TV Land series, announced over the weekend that he married his partner, Bethany Meyers, in early March in a courthouse wedding. However, their wedding didn’t just involve a witness; the couple wore matching outfits which they described as “gender-blending” ensembles.
Tortorella, who identifies himself as pansexual, announced via Instagram that he had married Meyers on March 9. “Just married. for real,” the actor wrote alongside a photo from their wedding day. “@bethanycmeyers and i wrote a very special piece about our wedding and unconditional love.”
On Instagram, Meyers added: “Can’t believe I kept my mouth shut for an entire week until we shared this. We waited because we wanted the opportunity to tell our story, in our own words—which we did—and I hope you take a moment of your day to read and open your mind to what different types of love can look like.”
The couple shared details from their nuptials with Them, expressing why their ceremony lacked many traditional wedding elements. “No guests. No flowers. No rings. My ‘dress’ consisting of trousers. His ‘tux,’ gown inclusive,” expressed Meyers, a fitness instructor who teaches at Studio B in New York City. “I suppose you would dub our wedding color white. It was certainly the most traditional thing we did.”
She added: “Honestly, it’s shocking that it happened this way. My religious upbringing had told me it would be different. Young ladies like myself went from their parents’ home to their husband’s home, no pit stops.”
Can’t believe I kept my mouth shut for an entire week until we shared this. We waited because we wanted the opportunity to tell our story, in our own words—which we did—and I hope you take a moment of your day to read and open your mind to what different types of love can look like. Link to the article found in our bios. Thank you to @them for giving us a platform to tell it on. @victoriamatthews_ for her incredible photography skills. @andrewmorrisonstudio for creating these gender fluid looks. And @jkcarrington for ensuring the day ran as smooth as could be.
Ultimately, Meyers realized that the only person she wanted to marry was Tortorella. “There wouldn’t be another soul I could share my life with, another human I’d be able to trust with my family,” she continued. “Another person for whom my guarded heart would open.”
Meyers was the one who proposed to Tortorella. “The truth is, I asked Nico almost a year ago to marry me. It was a weekday afternoon, he came to my place to dump a dead mouse from a trap that I was too terrified to do myself (gotta love New York),” she said. “I told him I loved him, that I was going to have his kids regardless, and that I needed health insurance (true romance). ‘Let’s get married,’ I told him. ‘No one has to know.’ It was he who wanted it to be more grandiose, and I who felt timid about the prospect of planning a wedding (gender roles have never been our thing).”
While the wedding itself ventured far from a traditional ceremony, the pair felt a range of sentimental emotions oftentimes familiar to couples on their special days. “We’ve been boyfriend and girlfriend, boyfriend and boyfriend, girlfriend and girlfriend, no friends, and all friends,” Tortorella added. “We’ve been sober, drunk, high, and addicted. we’ve been straight, confused, fluid, queer, bi, poly, gender enthusiasts. we’ve been students of the world and seekers. we’ve been individuals, we will forever be.”